The Day Before…

It’s Monday and I am driving. I’m listening to music on the xm Sirius radio going at a moderate speed in the fast lane. I’m feeling cute and #notbusted I looked better than what I felt- I have the windows down even though it was raining recently. – prior to me getting on the road I was at home just thinking about what the day was going to be – each day was hard prior to this day and hard to understand and not be so upset- during the weekend I cussed out the dr.- so being that it was monday and I was there each day already- I was spent but I had to muster up my big sister big girl boots and get my ass down the road- when I drive either I am listening to a cd or I am changing the station between 6 different channels- I stop on a station that’s hip-hop and The song changes by tupac shakur comes on and I began to wail… the chorus line “ that’s just the way it is, things will never be the same…that’s just the way it is, ohh yeah” at this point I’m trying not to pull over, I was really working on being on time to meet my sisters at the hospital and make some final decisions as our mom was in a coma.

That day I knew things were going to change, I knew things were going to feel weird- we had planned to pull mom off of life support but the circumstances around it had to be ironed out.

We; Merridith, Olivia and I spent the first part of our day loving on mom- Merridith brought oil for moms legs and she had painted her nails the day before Olivia took care of her hair and I loved on mom a while- we listened to music and talked with her.  We went one time to get coffee in the cafeteria while the other days , the cafeteria was a way to take a breather from what was going on. We spent as long as we could with mom-

We finally decided it was time to take care of business- calling her life insurance to figure out what that looked like- due to the policy it wasn’t quite time to have the insurance kick in as a benefit- we were right underneath the threshold of time- which sucked. At that point we needed to ask for money- and we knew it wouldn’t come from family- it would come from our friends. At that point it was swallow pride time and we put out a gofundme account. My sisters and I spoke about a day that would work out for all of us and it was the 2nd of march- the next step was to find a funeral home- because the hospital didn’t have a morgue.
Once we nailed down a spot as to where mom would go afterwards- we looked at each other and we said today is not the day- we called the head nurse that was helping us and she understood that it would be the next day tuesday- we would make the hardest decision of our lives. 

Us loving on my mommy

I Want Results…💁🏾‍♀️✌🏾

This is me (Today)

I want results…

Well, are you willing to do the things it takes to see the success you’d like? I’m talking about eating well, exercising and drinking water and keeping your stress levels down.

These are the things that will ensure success on the scale, that’s sustainable. Folks think it’s a certain diet or supplement. It’s not. It is really your ability to sustain good habits for a long period of time.

I think folks go wrong when it’s looked at like a fad of some sort. After the holidays or for a vacation cause they want to be snatched for whatever event…but what would happen if you decided to keep those same habits…day in and day out…🤔 what if you kept the weight off you lost? How would you feel?

This my friends is called maintenance…and many folks can lose but most never maintain. This is why your girlfriend is so adamant about you starting something because it didn’t work for her so why would it work for you. The difference is mindset and discipline.

When your mind is set on not gaining weight like “that” ever again you move differently. When you feel like you’re getting “fluffy” you tighten it up. But when the mindset is set on a certain destination or vacation to lose as soon as the vacation comes it’s a done deal for all the things you learned and put your body through to get to this point. This is why your body rebels…and realizes you’re not going to give it exactly what it needs because it’s constantly in survival mode. And you then have a hard time losing weight in the future because of your locked mindset. It’s when you begin to release what you know…and re- learn what you thought you knew to see the success you’d like.

This is why I want to snatch you back to life. I want to teach you to eat well. Enjoy life and maintain the weight you’d like. I’m not sure about you…but I’m not getting younger and it’s time to really learn what MY body needs to thrive and not survive. So I can feel amazing each day…not just in pockets of time.

I love what I do. I love helping folks. I love showing the way. It was so difficult to lose 80lbs and I’ve managed to keep it off. I’m now ready to share even more to help another set of folks who are ready to see success that’s sustainable through time.

This is me before…

The Quick ✌🏾fix Drama 😑🤷🏾‍♀️🙄💭

but you quit too early in the game to see your efforts.

Wouldn’t it be nice to sit back and do nothing and find…oh my goodness I lost weight…

Y’all that’s not real tho. I think it’s funny ( insert Jennifer Lopez’s song ain’t it funny) that we think that way. Oh my goodness…I sometimes have to snap myself into reality and be like girlfriend …what you’re doing is going to take time.

And when I say take time we give up too easily…when we don’t find a groove quickly. All of a sudden your efforts are all out the window and cue the ” it doesn’t work for me” song. When you know good and well it’s going to take time. Your body probably lost a bunch of water weight and now it wants to burn off the stored fat …but you quit too early in the game to see your efforts.

It’s like planting a lemon 🍋 tree seed in the ground and expecting it to grow lemons overnight…y’all it take about 2-5 years to see lemons on your tree…it’s funny to think that about a tree. It’s even funnier when you put yourself in the equation…it almost seems silly to do or use something and expect immediate results.

It takes 21- 30 days of doing something everyday to become a habit and about 90 days to establish that habit as a discipline. Knowing that info right there should ease your pain on trying to perform at a level that literally is going to take time. A daily grind…a loyalty to the process…to see the fruit of the labor put forth.

I would love immediate results like the next person. But in the world losing weight…if you lose it too quickly in a simulated environment…it’s that much easier to put it back on. So…which do you want lasting results…or a quick fix. Your body was made for the daily habits that are good for your body. Gaining weight is an outward way of your body not being able to store all as fast as your giving it.

You have the power to reverse it and take your life back…but it’s up to you to do it daily. The products…I share should be an extension of your ALREADY healthy lifestyle. Not the sugar that costs your horrible habits.

I love you! I want you better, but it starts with your mindset to do it each day…with no end in sight. And that my friends…is a lifestyle not a DIEt fad.

Hear me ✌🏾📣

I fully believe…that when the Bible says my people perish for a lack of knowledge.

What knowledge…seeing things differently. People are out here wanting the kingdom to come but have a jacked up spirit. You want things to change but have the worst skeptical attitude EVER. How can God bless you…when your attitude is whack.

How?

To be honest…and completely candid. I get so excited to help especially the people of God, even a sister that looks like me…but y’all are the most skeptical out there. You say you support Black business but have no faith to support one. I think it’s the most hurtful…when the conversation…is me having to convince you I’m a real fuckin person.

I don’t get it. I so tired of it. The most hurtful people are my own kind my own culture. The very people I’m called to to help don’t even want to hear or change. Most days I feel like Jonah…not wanting to preach to the people God called him to.

No matter what I will NOT QUIT. It’s not about if they receive it’s about my obedience.

I love you Lord. Change my attitude. Change me to be a better communicater.

You serious…✌🏾

Your attitude sucks…

It sucks for the next level…what you continue to say you won’t do, what you continue to complain about other folks, what you continue to not know is keeping you from your fullest blessing in this life, on this earth…in this heaven. 

I have folks every day telling me what  they won’t do or they pick it apart so badly they take the simplicity out of it. It pains me everyday to hear folks life and walk in lower than what they could do. I see potential in everyone being a business owner. I can  lead you to the best water but with your horrible mindset, you shoot it down saying it won’t work or find a piece of evidence that in your mind solidifies the reasoning why you feel steadfast in your no, to better health…a better lifestyle. 

You see, I had the same mindset. The same feelings…the same everything I can pinpoint it a mile away and now its nails to a chalkboard. God has shown me with my family and through His written word that we must walk in faith, not just on Sunday…but even in our daily lives. That also means health too.

What exactly are you wanting…a quick fix? If that’s the case go to Walmart or the Target whichever you prefer…and you have your pick on quick fixes. What I have is not a quick fix, it’s a lifestyle change. It’s going to prevent you and your generation from being in good health. Thats bible…3 John 1:2 Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. You see, what is it for a man to gain the world and lose his soul…why would it be good for you to live a wealthy life and not have peace annnnnnnd good health. Why do we think God is like that…He wants you to have it all…it’s called being whole. Amen…as your soul prospers.

3 John 1:2 Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.

New King James Version

You want to create a lifestyle with this…not a personal fad…of yo- yo dieting. And your body can only do that for so long you will eventually get to a point where your body is going to rebel against your horrible habit. I think the hardest part is dealing with beautiful people who believe you know it all…if you did you would be successful in weight loss, not asking for help. I’m just saying. Can I just say it was when I began to relinquish my thoughts and feelings and know all to newer knowledge and newer feedback to do better in life and beyond. It’s not going to take a few months to drop 50lbs…it’s going to take you putting one foot in front of the other to see what you want to see. You can’t be one foot in one foot out. You gotta be committed to the goal at hand if you want to lose weight, you’re going to have to change your suckie behavior and get a new revelation on doing newer things so you can see…what you want. Instead of blaming other people and things for your lack of success. It’s time you came a bit higher in your thinking and our commitment with yourself. I know it’s not easy…but if you decide and create new habits, which will then create disciplines… you will see the fruit of your labor as well as maintaining weight…because it starts from jump street with you wanting to keep the weight off. That’s a whole nutha topic…haaaaaaa! 

No Shade🌞…but

If you think this is too expensive…this is not for you…

If you think you can’t do it…sit exactly where you are…

If your excuses are bigger than your goals…keep netflixing and chillin’

If you say you’re “keeping it real”…and you’ve been in the same exact mindset…year after year…news flash boo, you’re NOT keeping anything real except your Same environment…how’s that working for you?


Then what I have to offer…is not going to help you. Miss Muffet…you need to move off your tuffet if YOU want to see something different.

We make time for what we want…we have money for what we need and want…I can’t change your mindset…if you believe this won’t be beneficial to you…guess what it won’t.

But you’re steadily unhappy, no joy, overweight, stressed out, broke, can’t afford anything…with that attitude you’ll stay exactly where you’re at.

If you’re coachable, want change but don’t know how, and you want to see something different…the opportunity I have for you will change your life.

You must want change more than comfort, you must be sick of being fat, you must be tired of not having enough money…then Month…but when you’re comfortable… Change is hard. Change is foreign. Change is out of the question.

If you want something different… beginning in 2022 then you MUST walk differently and think differently. And believe that what you are investing in whether it be weight loss or business that you will be successful no matter what.

Begin to fix your attitude…and you’ll begin to see a different world.

Make it make sense 🤪

Make it make sense to me…

Make it make sense to you…first…

So you’d much rather…stay where you are due to money, circumstances and your own girt. Let’s start with money…make no mistake on what I do. I love to help people with their health and wealth goals with the business I am in. The company I do business with is 20 years old…but it’s trendy in what we carry and we have a great price point. So when I have folks message me just bout the money part of it…my first thought that runs in my mind once I share the price which is about what you’d pay for a dinner 2 now a days…and now their name is west…and I’m.out that mess…type of vibe they give when they ghost me. Again…my thoughts are…so the price of you being that size even one more month…is not worth paying monthly for for.your health…and that’s where I get passionate. Why would you let price get in the way of health? My feeling is you might as well pay for the healthy stuff now…or have to pay unwillingly later. 

What is the cost for you to be the healthiest version of you…? I pray that you say priceless… instead of the cheapest thing you can find. I pray you want quality too…and not a bunch of colors and fillers. So you’d pay $20 or something that has artificial flavors colors and sweeteners then to pay $40 for no artificial flavors colors or sweeteners. That just tells me you don’t value your body and what you put into it. 

Let’s talk about circumstances…so good let what…the boo over there is doing or saying to you to stop YOU from achieving your goal. imIf you really want to be free in 2022…stop allowing other people’s bullshit to rule your life. No more should you be a doormat to people in your life’s bullshit. It just trips you up…now you’re wrapped in their drama and YOU could be further instead of helping to your detriment. I’ll leave that there…

Lastly, you can get past you. You have gotten in YOUR way long enough…it’s time to sing a different tune. Instead of saying I tried everything before…or saying weight loss is hard…or I’ll never join an MLM. Do research first. Your old knowledge will hold you back from.the blessings that are right in front of you… because you heard one story of someone who never achieved their dream talk you out of yours… unbelievable. Your vocabulary, your old knowledge, your old thinking is keeping you…right where you’re at. You’re praying for a way out but your mouth won’t let you. Begin to sing a different tune…and you’ll see more results.

Don’t you want to feel good, look good and have the money to do so or do you want to be held back by your own actions, thoughts and deeds? You have the power to change it. God has given each of us the measure of faith…you have it

…it’s all about you applying it outside of the 4 walls of the church! Hallelujah

…now it makes sense…right?! 

You can’t be wrong 🙅🏾‍♀️ and strong 💪🏾at the same time😎

**You can’t be wrong and strong at the same time – Laverne Mcinnis

When I heard this…I was like right on. But it also sparked…me looking at myself and thinking…

I’ve been wrong…many times and I tried to appear strong. In my actions, my thought processes, and my mindset. I began to dig deeper in myself to change the long-term mindsets I had. 

One mindset that got me nowhere was constantly telling myself… I know…I was very steadfast on being right all the time …I was wrong most of the time. Because I didn’t take the time to gain knowledge in that particular area. Or I used what someone told me and that’s what framed my thought process. 

It’s when someone says they tried a particular weight loss program…but they didn’t follow through with the program. Finally they conclude that it doesn’t work…so they tell 10 of their Friends it didn’t work. And now they Are feeling justified in their beliefs because of the reaction of others. So now you believe them. And miss your blessing. 

See I’ve done this even at a small scale. Someone says oh don’t go to that movie…it’s horrible. How do they know…I actually may enjoy it. But we shape our perceptions on what others put on us. 

Another example is in business. Someone may say in an MLM you can’t make money. Well, maybe it’s because they didn’t follow the systems they had in place for you TO make the money. But you disregarded it …and quit, saying it doesn’t work…but in reality it’s YOU that didn’t work. You didn’t implement the systems to make the money. So now…you are strongly feeling that you don’t make money in those businesses and you’re still broke working your 9-5 capped out on the hourly wage. 

You can’t be wrong and strong…at the same time. You must be willing to see and do something different.

Gain new knowledge. Maybe what you know…is not relevant for this time…we’re in 2022. And if you don’t have a business… something you can’t get fired from. You’ve missed what we learned in 2020 ✌🏾 ❤ when folks lost their jobs due to business needs and world events. 

Now your mindset has worked against you … because you won’t allow yourself the space to venture off and do something DIFFERENT. 

Stop playing games and get a new perspective and gain new knowledge to get completely free here in 2022.

The year where you can’t be wrong and strong at the same time. 

Check out Vernes Junk Closet on YouTube

**Shout out to Laverne Mcinnis of Vernes Junk Closet on YouTube where she shares an encouraging word every afternoon EST!! This is where this blog idea came from. 

Laverne Mcinnis of Vernes Junk Closet and the Vee Mac Show on YouTube the inspiration of this blog spot

Can we all just STOP 🛑🙅🏾‍♀️💯✌🏾

Oh my goodness…

You’re hella funny…👌🏾

I thought doing things month to month would work for me too…but it wasn’t until I decided to go all in…not piecemeal it…and do “something” for a month… sometimes it’s going to take a whole month for your body to trust you again. Because it knows you’re not loyal to it…so it’ll gain back what you lost in a month and then some. 

You then say it’s the product…and you continue on with your horrible ways. 

Or you get the product that you eat horrible for the month and wonder why you’re not seeing any results…

The common denominator is you …YOU need to change you. Your mindset is smug…your attitude is horrible and you wonder why the scale is NOT moving. 

This is why you’re hella funny… because it takes 21-30 days to learn a new trait before it becomes one’s habit. Literally you stop right before success…right before the habit sticks and then…now it’s the product…and you never take responsibility for the fact you didn’t come correct…on your own journey.

So get out of here saying you just want to try it for a month…so 20 years of being fat is going to erase in a month… you’re hella funny. 

You’ll stay exactly where you’re at. And that is your choice… sometimes you have to do something different to get a better or different result.

Welcome 2022 🥂

Do yourself a favor and stop playing games boo 👏🏾

I have been thinking a lot, and everything I am today is because I went through some iffy ish…while growing up. Many folks think that just because I have a bunch of energy…I don’t post about negative things…means I must NOT  have lived life…WRONG…I have I just choose to not let that be my light…

I can say… that’s exactly what qualifies me for this…not because it looks good, but because behind the scenes I’m living life and showing the light of Christ. 

We forget that showing His light is when we are going through…and His energy, His confidence, His might shows up, and shows out.

I’ll be The first to admit that I am just now… stepping into this new found confidence in Christ. And it’s all because…I dove into Who I am in Christ and Who I am as a woman…I will say being in this business has pushed it out…inna way I would have never seen…and I would have never done for myself. 

They say having an MLM ( multi-level marketing business) is a personal development plan wrapped in a business. What I have found…is that this business is the bible walking out in real time. And being in the business for almost 4 years…the woman I have become is a refined version of the girl…that started. 

I just wanted to lose weight…and that turned into me being The healthiest version of me…and now I’m working on refining that more. To be the strongest…most toned, person I can be. 

Now it’s turned into bringing in more than a full time income. And Helping others achieve optimal health or an extra stream of income.

I love what God is doing! And I can’t wait to see what God is going to do this year!! 

Love and Blessings 🥂